Mom to be
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Jesemega89
- Posts: 2
- Joined: Wed Dec 07, 2011 2:16 am
Mom to be
I recently found out that I am pregnant and I am utterly terrified. I did not want children and in all honesty, it is because of my bpi. I have barely any movement in my left hand, I have a decent range of motion in my arm but my triceps are useless along with half my forearm and my wrist. I know my choice might not make sense, but it was one I was comfortable with. I can not tie my own shoes, or zip up jackets and most of the time when I cook I manage to burn my hand due to half of it not having any feeling. I figure velcro will be my new best friend but trying to keep up with a child will be tough when I can barely manage myself. I am just absolutely lost.
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cbe411
- Posts: 1393
- Joined: Sun Jun 01, 2003 8:27 pm
- Injury Description, Date, extent, surgical intervention etc: MVA in 2001, nerve graph in 2002, Median Nerve Transfer in 2004 and an unsuccessful Gracillis Muscle Transfer in 2006. I am living life and loving it! Feel free to contact me :)
- Location: Grosse Pointe Woods, MI
- Contact:
Re: Mom to be
WAIT WAIT WAIT!!!! You CAN and WILL do this!!!!!! My son will be 2 on the 15th!! It has been the GREATEST thing ever!!!!! It continues to challenge me every day... but I love it and would not have it any other way!!! Mommy-hood is the BEST!!!! There are MANY things that I Do differently but I dont care! I will show ANYONE who wants to tell me otherwise!!
So... for the personal stuff... you can email me privately if you want
(courtney at ubpn dot org) Hell... give me a call I would LOVE to chat with you!!! I am in MI, so EST. Email me!!
Where do you live?
How far along are you?
Are you going this road solo?
Do you have a support system at home?
How comfortable are you being uncomfortable?
How comfortable are you with asking for help?
How comfortable are you receiving help?
How private are you?
I too was worried before my son was born! Now I laugh when he does things one handed like I do They learn to adapt... you will be amazed! You CAN do this and I am here to support you all the way!!!!! Seriously... you will amaze yourself!!! Please shoot me an email and we can exchange numbers and chat!!! A BIG HUGE hug from one tbpi mom to another!!!!!!!!!
Courtney
So... for the personal stuff... you can email me privately if you want
(courtney at ubpn dot org) Hell... give me a call I would LOVE to chat with you!!! I am in MI, so EST. Email me!!Where do you live?
How far along are you?
Are you going this road solo?
Do you have a support system at home?
How comfortable are you being uncomfortable?
How comfortable are you with asking for help?
How comfortable are you receiving help?
How private are you?
I too was worried before my son was born! Now I laugh when he does things one handed like I do
They learn to adapt... you will be amazed! You CAN do this and I am here to support you all the way!!!!! Seriously... you will amaze yourself!!! Please shoot me an email and we can exchange numbers and chat!!! A BIG HUGE hug from one tbpi mom to another!!!!!!!!!Courtney
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Carolyn J
- Posts: 3424
- Joined: Tue Apr 06, 2004 1:22 pm
- Injury Description, Date, extent, surgical intervention etc: LOBPI. I am 77 yrs old and never had a name for my injuries until 2004 when I found UBPN at age 66.
My injuries are: LOBPI on upper body and Cerebrael Palsy on the lower left extremities. The only intervention I've had is a tendon transplant from my left leg to my left foot to enable flexing t age 24 in 1962. Before that, my foot would freeze without notice on the side when wearing heels AND I always did wear them at work "to fit in" I also stuttered until around age 18-19...just outgrew it...no therapy for it. Also suffered from very very low self esteem; severe Depression and Anxiety attacks started at menopause. I stuffed emotions and over-compensated in every thing I did to "fit in" and be "invisible". My injuries were Never addressed or talked about until age 66. I am a late bloomer!!!!!
I welcome any and all questions about "My Journey".
There is NO SUCH THING AS A DUMB QUESTION.
Sharing helps to Heal. HUGS do too. - Location: Tacoma WA
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Re: Mom to be
Mom to Be,
All of use in the UBPN Family are here for you and will support you. FYI, you are welcome on all of the Forum Message Boards. We, on the "Adults & Teens with OBPI'S" have had several Topic threads on Pregnancy,"How to do Things one-handed etc". Please feel welcome to post specific questions for us...we enjoy sharing our "ways" that we invent & I know dear Courtney will be there for you too.
"gramma"Carolyn J
LOBPI/73+
All of use in the UBPN Family are here for you and will support you. FYI, you are welcome on all of the Forum Message Boards. We, on the "Adults & Teens with OBPI'S" have had several Topic threads on Pregnancy,"How to do Things one-handed etc". Please feel welcome to post specific questions for us...we enjoy sharing our "ways" that we invent & I know dear Courtney will be there for you too.
"gramma"Carolyn J
LOBPI/73+
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Dan
- Posts: 170
- Joined: Wed Jun 28, 2006 9:08 pm
- Injury Description, Date, extent, surgical intervention etc: Injured 5/11/86, had just turned 18 yrs old
Evulsed C5-T1
Intercostal into Bicep 10/86 - Location: Los Angeles
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Re: Mom to be
I second what Courtney as well !!!!!!!!!!!
I know she has much more credibility as a woman that I do as the guy, but I have all five evulsed and only have the bicep, I only let you know that as a referrence that I do almost everything exclusively with one arm.
I have a 6 and 4 year old and I was/am a very active Daddy. I did everything by myself with the kids starting from birth, meaning I had them by myself doing all things necessary to take care of them. My wife even went on a weekend womens retreat five weeks after my youngest was born. So I had both of them for the weekend and did it all, even double diaper duty:)
As far as support, put me down as a resource as well, anything you need, e-mail call or if you are near Los Angeles, in person.
Dan
I know she has much more credibility as a woman that I do as the guy, but I have all five evulsed and only have the bicep, I only let you know that as a referrence that I do almost everything exclusively with one arm.
I have a 6 and 4 year old and I was/am a very active Daddy. I did everything by myself with the kids starting from birth, meaning I had them by myself doing all things necessary to take care of them. My wife even went on a weekend womens retreat five weeks after my youngest was born. So I had both of them for the weekend and did it all, even double diaper duty:)
As far as support, put me down as a resource as well, anything you need, e-mail call or if you are near Los Angeles, in person.
Dan
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sfcash
- Posts: 4
- Joined: Mon Sep 12, 2011 1:07 am
- Injury Description, Date, extent, surgical intervention etc: Nov. 28, 2009 - I was thrown from the suv; C2 vertebrae was crushed and right arm was completely evulsed. I have had a nerve transfer as well as a muscle transfer; I'm awaiting results.
Re: Mom to be
Congratulations are in order! My baby girl is five and I hate that she'll be an only child because of my injury. Truly I believe you can do this! Yes, it will be tough but soooooo worth it. I don't know how extensive your injuries are but challenges are made to be overcomed! If there is anything I can do to assist, please do not hesitate to ask.
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cbe411
- Posts: 1393
- Joined: Sun Jun 01, 2003 8:27 pm
- Injury Description, Date, extent, surgical intervention etc: MVA in 2001, nerve graph in 2002, Median Nerve Transfer in 2004 and an unsuccessful Gracillis Muscle Transfer in 2006. I am living life and loving it! Feel free to contact me :)
- Location: Grosse Pointe Woods, MI
- Contact:
Re: Mom to be
Any word from this soon to be new mommy? I private messaged her but got no response! We are here to help, please let us!
Courtney
Courtney